I've been using Momma cat psychology on Lil'Bit for the last few days.

I'll put the food in the bowls and then I'll pick Lil'Bit up by the scruff of the neck to make him go into "Docile Kitten" mode. I then lay him into the palm of my other hand and I can then stroke and pet him as I praise him.
After a little bit of petting, I pick him up by the scruff again and set him back down by the food bowls.
Yeah, I checked a couple days ago, using the scruff to calm. ........yup....little Tom cat.
Here's
scruffy Lil'Bit!

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