It feels so good to know I'm not the only one fighting this battle with my lady. Hang tough bro ! God I can sympathize. Does she get worse anxiety when she smokes ? In my experience, the paranoia/anxiety often induced from smoking generally happens in people with low to no tolerance. The more often she smokes, the less likely she will be to have that side affect. Once I got my ladies tolerance up, she loved smoking and chokes as much if not more than me now. She seems to respond well to Sativas and 50/50 hybrids. Her absolute favorite is Kali Mist.... really seems to level her out. It's all good now, unless we run out..... then there's trouble in paradise. Regardless, beats the shit outta anti-depressants.
All that being said - it takes a special kinda person to tolerate a bi-polar partner. I applaud your patience and efforts!