Ok, after the kids started to leave the house, she told me I needed my own hobby. So that afternoon, I came home with 2 small grow tents and all the other stuff to make them run. I had ordered beans and threw them up in one of the kids old rooms. She came home, saw what I had done and was pissed and wouldn't talk to me for 2 days. She stated that that was not what she had in mind. But after careful consideration, I went and got my growers card from the state and told and showed, I was doing it legal. She never even knew there was a legalized state card!! After that, she was cool about it. She doesn't smoke, and she doesn't like it to this day, but she has said I am good at it and she can tell it helps me relax by growing. I had to plan all my grows and take the tents down or chop em early due to family visits from other states. This last run, I told her I was leaving it up and just told family that I was a licensed grower through the state and they all thought it was pretty cool. Now I can let my babies go their full time and not have to worry about it. I do however, have to water them after she goes to bed and I chop them down when she isn't home. If it came down to it, I would shut the whole thing down if it bothered her that much, but she does realize my growing is something I love and she said it would not be fair to me, if she took my passion away from me!! Transparency is needed in any relationship!! Be honest from the start. BUT if you have to do it Illegally, You may have to err on the side of caution and casually feel your partner out for where they stand on the situation.:check:
